People tell you how guiding kids into self-responsible adults is hard, but most of us have no idea what that means until we are riding the highs and lows of parenting. As a mother of twins, I am right there with you. It can be exhilarating. It can be terrifying.
I support parents in overcoming personal triggers that make it hard to offer their child the connected, secure relationship they really want.
Parent Guidance and Support (EMDR available)
The sense of self in any child does not develop in isolation, but in other important relationships early in life. We came to this world to connect with others. When these connections happen in a way that hurt us or injure us, our sense of self cannot fully develop.
Parents' emotional challenges can impact their children’s emotional, physical, and psychological development. Sometimes the parent may be highly traumatized by living through the traumas of their children.
Traumas that have not healed in one generation have the potential of being passed onto the next. Sometimes, due to experiences with their own caregivers, parents may have difficulties with their kids such as: setting boundaries, overprotective, neglectful, abusive, too distant, or too intrusive. In many cases, having the parent receive some EMDR therapy may be recommended for best results.
Parents often put their needs after the needs of their children. I strongly recommend you get the care you deserve. When the entire family receives effective support, chances for success skyrocket.
Co-parent Guidance and Support (EMDR available)
Although no longer married, you are deep in the experience of raising children together after divorce or separation occurs. Often a difficult process, co-parenting is greatly influenced by the reciprocal interactions of each parent. Co-parenting requires empathy, patience and open communication for success, which is not an easy thing to achieve for couples who've encountered marital issues.
Placing the sole focus on your children can be a great way of helping to make co-parenting a positive experience. When the child can maintain an ongoing, stable and loving relationship with both parents, it can help them fully recover from their parents’ separation. Children aren’t left worrying about what they did wrong, or feeling like they have to choose between parents, or wondering why one parent doesn’t love them enough to be involved in their life anymore.
Children benefit when parents are able to establish a respectful and cooperative co-parenting relationship. In many cases, having the parent receive some EMDR therapy may be recommended for best results. I support co-parents in showing up in their integrity for their kids.
Where we're going
Finding more enjoyment during your child's individuation process
Creating a safe and respectful home environment
Role modeling assertiveness, boundaries, and empathy
Understanding personal triggers that make it hard to offer your child the relationship you want
how we'll get there
Parenting with Love and Logic (Foster W. Cline)
How We Love Our Kids: The Five Love Styles of Parenting (Milan Yerkovich)
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (Adele Faber)
No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind (Daniel J. Siegel)